5 Steps for the Person Who Thinks They Can’t Meditate
Meditation allows you to connect with the deepest part of yourself. It is time spent with your higher power and access to your supernatural abilities to live a life of purpose and wellbeing. It is stillness and communion with the Universe. It’s the lack of presence that keeps our lives stressful. Stress is the #1 killer. It releases cortisol, that fight or flight hormone, that causes depression, anxiety, high blood pressure and contributes to other chronic diseases like heart disease and depression. Meditation reverses these effects. So if you think you can’t do it, you can’t afford not to do it if you want a fulfilling and enriched life of health and wellness. Here is how to meditate in 5 simple steps:
Close your eyes. Most of what we believe or internalize is what we see with our eyes. When you cut off that sense, you begin to shift your perspective to your other senses and eliminate the visual noise that keeps you from your patience. Embrace this time to rest your worldly eyes and focus on your 6th sense. Open your heart and your gratitude.
Breathe. Take 3 deep breaths. Count to 4 on the inhale, stop at the top, and release. These breaths will calm you down immediately and begin to bring you into stillness. Whenever you feel astray, come back to your breath. You control your breath. The same breath that can bring you calm, or cause you to hyperventilate. In meditation, it is the calming connection of your spirit to your body.
Affirm that you cannot fail. Don’t be attached to giving your meditation a grade. Thinking during meditation is natural. The point in meditation is to connect with your higher power through stillness and awareness. The more you meditate you become the master of your mind and are able to slow your own thinking.
“…focus on the recovery from thinking. Meaning that, when you notice you are thinking about something, stop and give notice and recognize what you are thinking about. That is the awareness that you are trying to achieve. In that moment of recognition, no matter how brief, you recover from thinking. That is the gap of meditation. Just practice awareness of your thoughts over and over. The meditation is in the recovery from each thought before the next one comes.” — Excerpt from my book, The 10 Days
Research says the average person has 50,000 thoughts per day. It is impossible not to be influenced by all the thoughts sensations, feelings, and perceptions coming at and through you. So instead of kicking yourself, give your thoughts the recognition they demand and then breathe. This simple acceptance slows down your thinking, and just like that, you are meditating.
Identify with your best self. You are not a body with a spirit, you are a spiritual being with a body. A shift from the mind and body identification to the spirit identification. Visualize that there are 2 of you. Your body and your constant thinking and overreaction are the little you, and the big You is your spirit filled with peace and contentment. Identify with the part of you that is loving, vibrant and full of light. Continue to come back to this feeling. Whenever thoughts or worry come in, it is the little you feeling ignored and wanting some attention. Recognize the interruption, and send yourself love and patience from the spiritual You, and stay in the light.
Meditate first thing in the morning. Because we get overwhelmed by life and 50,000 thoughts a day, it is easy to be distracted. Once we get in a state of frustration, hurriedness, and anxiety, it is difficult to break out of it. Every great spiritual practice begins the day with a period of devotion and meditation. In the early morning, your mind has not been overactivated by news, meetings and daily tasks. It is in the best state of calm to go into meditation. Then the physiological and metaphysical benefits of meditation cover you throughout the day. Leaving you clearer, less stressed and able to make the best choices for your life. So don’t check your phone, turn on the news or get a spike of caffeine. Ease into your day with stillness and it will protect and guide all of your interactions for the rest of the day.
Doing these 5 steps you will begin a successful meditation practice immediately! You will benefit from less stress, improved wellbeing, and will find that sense of peace and inner fulfillment that you so deeply desire. Do it. You can’t fail.
Love & Light,