Why do good?


Why do good? The solution is in the question. Do good for goodness’ sake… 

Normally, the month of February is MY month.  It’s uniquely short, contains days dedicated to love, my wedding anniversary, and my birthday.  A triple treat, what’s better than love and endless celebrations? February makes me feel so important.  But this year instead of my normal self-indulgent spree of partying, shopping, vacationing, or anything else I wanted, life threw me some curveballs. On the minor side of things, a few direct relatives actually forgot my birthday! [hand to heart gasp! *chuckle*] But by curveballs I mean, I’ve had 3 deaths in the last 3 weeks. The first of which I was at the bedside, and that pretty much set the tone for the rest of the month. Add to that, a loved one suffered a heart attack and needs help making major changes to regain a lifestyle of wellness which she deserves. I’ve literally focused on everyone else while my work and my weight have suffered. Why did I do this? Well, why not.

I’ve kept my spirit as balanced as possible given that the month of ME sped by without giving me a second look.  I’ve traveled middle America from Oklahoma City to Nashville, to North Carolina and Virginia. A 3-week trek to bring and receive energy as well as compassion to loved ones.  I used this time as an Eat, Pray, Love journey to meditate and reflect on this question: 

“What is the whole point of everything…why do good?” 

It’s a big question.  Entire religions are dedicated to this question.  But I’ll take my bite of the elephant here.  Why not.

The 4th of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is “Always do your best.”  This is the right way to live even though there will always be detractors and losses.  In my life, I’ve been overlooked, accused of not being a nurturing mother or wife, labeled a demanding boss, and on occasion an insensitive friend.  I’ve also been a celebrated mother of the year, the best wife a man could have, promoted to levels most will never see, and rewarded with loving friendships that will last my lifetime. I cannot be disparaged. Because deep down in my heart I know that I have always done the best I can with the tools I’ve been given. Maybe for a day, a week, or even a month I’m knocked down and others don’t appreciate the “me” that I am, but in the end, because the Universe is kind, I am reminded of my worth and renewed in my spirit.

My month of ME has turned into a month of WE and is the best gift life could have given me for my spiritual growth.  I guess it has taken me 51 years and some inexplicable synchronicities to really grow up. All things are lessons God would have me learn. It is challenging but life is essentially about acceptance and forgiveness. Wellness is on the other side of sickness.  Personal betrayals are an opportunity to forgive. Death is the other side of Life. 

Appreciated or not, flawed and a perfect child of God at the same time, knowing you’ve done your best, go forward boldly and live life fully. Take comfort in knowing that all will be well.  Do good for goodness’ sake.

P.S. I still love February!

UGottaEat…so eat mindfully.

Feeding your mind, body, and spirit.